“Don’t do it – or at least don’t expect anything” “There is no dating in Beijing, just casual hook ups” “Getting laid is easy, finding a boyfriend is hard” “Dating is so difficult in Beijing” “You can’t even get a one-night stand here” Those are some comments I got when I conducted my utterly unscientific survey on this topic with a handful of single women in Beijing, ranging from their twenties to forties. But they have been here for a while, usually way over a year, and been through the cycles of dating frustrations.
Likewise, many women, including many Chinese girls, are not deterred by the guy having a girlfriend (or wife), knowing that the guy likely won’t be either.
As said before, Beijing is not a relationship place.
Everyone seems to know everyone, or least knows them.
In some social circles casual relationships with other expats can be quite incestuous.
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Unfortunately, for the expat girls, it’s not such a success story.
Hey, and if all else fails, there’s still Ok Cupid.
Lots of guys – and girls – there are looking for a quick hookup, and some maybe even for more. Just know that the Beijing expat community can feel very small.
To them, Beijing is like that place in Pinocchio where all the naughty little boys can smoke, drink and party practically free of charge.
The added bonus with being in Beijing and not that place is that they can have cheap sex, eliminating the need for the arduous task of dating, and at the end of the day they don’t turn into donkeys.
And they agree with the women, Beijing is not a relationship place. The typical notion of dating, meaning going out for dinner or a movie, having a drink afterwards, talking and some kissing, maybe even repeat before having sex, that kind of dating does not seem a common occurrence in Beijing.