(Dear me, I'm even tearing up a little as I write this.)Anyway, the experience has me convinced that BOTH friends need to feel pretty strong chemistry before they move from being platonic pals to romantic partners.
Best friends dating each other
You be really happy for them, and explain that if they ever broke up (terrible suggestion, you know, but it is possible, heaven forbid) that you will refuse to take sides and they are never to put you in the middle of any of their fights or arguements.
If you feel like they're checking off a lot of the things on this list already and you don't feel the need to find someone else, then you should either commit to them or cool things down a bit so you can find a fulfilling relationship. You've never tried to set them up with your friends.
Lovelies: Yesterday, I was talking about how awesome it was to have Jake Stein* along on the weekend trip--and also talking about how Jake and I went from being best friends to being boyfriend-and-girlfriend for a brief period. " I said, thinking he was just feeling randy, and annoyed that he would risk our friendship on a whim. (Or, at least, MY insecurities.) His writing career was going well, and the work he did interested me. What's more, I was terrified we might ruin the friendship. And I really do think, after all, that the main problem was our lack of chemistry.
The question of our dating came up like this: Jake and I had gone back to his apartment for a nightcap after having dinner together ... But he told me he'd been mulling it over for a while, and he was serious about wanting to give things a go. And not having Jake in my life seemed unimaginably painful. Maybe incompatible phermones are to blame--who knows?
Aren't you ready for someone who still makes for good company even after the passion starts to plateau?
Plus, just imagine the energy that you and a friend-turned-boyfriend will share after months (even years!
Why dating your best friend may be your best bet to finding true love.
There's nothing quite like feeling a spark of attraction between you and someone you just met, but lately, we've been wondering whether it's better to date a friend, or at least somebody we've known longer than just a couple of weeks. Let's face it: during the first few months of dating someone new, it's easy to hold yourself together and pretend like you don't have a dark side (everybody has one).
If, instead, the catalyst seems to be a tragedy (like a death in the family) or even a great personal victory (like a big promotion or selling your first movie script), you might want to hold off a month or two, and re-assess then.
Sometimes major life events can cloud our judgement, and make us so depressed--or euphoric--that we make bad decisions.
I had a great time with him--we were always laughing; always talking about interesting things; always comfortable discussing our emotions, fears and insecurities. In other words, it was hard to imagine a more ideal boyfriend. for whatever decidedly peculiar reason, I'd never felt an overwhelming urge to get it on with him.