Then, finally, I looked at it again, and bought it. I'm still single, and I still want a mate, but I don't feel like it's a bad thing anymore; I don't feel like it means I'm a weak person; it's given me a new way to look at the process.
Our modern Western culture teaches you in a way that there is a deep shame with being lonely, you are not supposed to admit your feelings. If the Buddha Dated is the best guide to healthy relationships I've ever found.
That doesn't mean we have a goal of getting rid of fear; rather we accept it as part of our unfolding journey." I couldn't agree more.
Her lists of behaviors for us to examine in our partners and ourselves are excellent and straightforward.
A close examination of what we want and what we have to offer, our values and our desires, all play into what makes relationships work or not. We can't say yes to what we don't know."Her list of questions to explore with your partner before becoming sexual (page 126) are excellent.
So much worthy of quoting that I suggest you simply BUY this book.
I had gotten out of a realtionship and was working to improve myself after learning a few things about myself that I didn't like. It is an entertaineing, yet educational book that kept me intigued all of the way through. It is full of insights that helped me to move closer to the person I want to be and to the relationship that I want to be in.
I read in an earlier review how the person kept having aha's! It pulls from Buddhism, Sufism, and Quaker ideals to help you find the ideal of a relationship you want to be in.But our culture doesn't practice arranged marriage!Furthermore, the more I grew, the more my desire for a mate grew.and Love's Way Praise for If the Buddha Had Kids“Dr.Kasl provides a wonderful blend of Buddhist wisdom, practical suggestions, psychological research, and her own rich perspective of being a mother. [consider this] your bridge.” —Rowan Conrad, Ph D, Director, Open Way Mindfulness Center“If The Buddha Got Stuck brings perspective, inspiring stories, and useful exercises to feel less overwhelmed by life's difficulties.” —Lisa M. D., Associate Professor in Psychiatry, Harvard Medical School and author of Seeking Safety: A Treatment Manual for PTSD and Substance Abuse Charlotte Kasl, Ph.Regardless of your starting place, Kasl will help you achieve greater joy, authenticity, and peace of mind. As a single woman who had just started studying Buddhism, I developed a strong cognitive dissonance that nearly ended my spiritual pursuits.