The eyes can be a potent source of non-verbal sexual communication; they can lend a sexual subtext without having to actually say a word.To start with: just because the triangle gaze is a way of telling whether your date is interested in kissing you doesn’t mean that you can’t use it There’s a lot of discussion on how to communicate sexual desire through a glance – such as visualizing what you want to do to your date while smiling and looking into their eyes – but I’m a fan of strategic intense eye contact.This is the beginning of the body’s fear response – they’re getting ready to go into fight-or-flight mode.
You see, our brains are ultimately controlled by our body’s reactions; we react to the stimuli and backfill the reasons for it .
Staring into your date’s eyes for a fraction longer than you would normally can cause their heart to race and feel a little light-headed.
This falls nicely into the push-pull dynamic: the fight building tension then the release of the compliment and changing the subject – in this case, effected by a cut to a new scene.
In practice, you want to cut the conversational thread and move on to another topic – one unrelated to what you were just discussing and one that doesn’t immediately lead to another verbal fencing match.
Eye contact is a critical part of how we communicate – and it can be shockingly intimate.
Our eyes are one of the most expressive parts of our body- yet their value in flirting is under-appreciated.It’s the building of expectations that makes the sudden drop immediately afterwards so satisfying; just launching into the ride – the way some coasters do – is less satisfying.When people – usually guys – talk about “the thrill of the chase” in dating, they’re talking about the lead up to the “conquest”, the heady feeling of inevitability that grows like an orgasm to a crescendo before you reach the point of no return.If the pressure grows past a certain point, the tank ruptures; the valve is there to equalize the pressure, keeping it just below the danger zone.It’s the same with building sexual tension: keep building the tension for too long, whether through flirting or physical contact, and you’re going to redline – either you’ll creep out your date or overwhelm them.Except the same principle applies: we want what we can’t have.