How can one change if they are unable to see that there is anything wrong with them?
I highly recommend Codependents Anonymous for those who are attempting to free themselves for relationships that are toxic and abusive.
Nor do you do more than your fair share of tasks because you truly want to be of service over and over without any kind of reciprocal arrangement.
When you say yes (especially when you really want to say NO), you are actually protecting yourself from having to face the potentially painful consequences that can result when someone is angry or disappointed with you for not agreeing to do what they want you to do.
I have been seeing lots of posts on Facebook about people giving in to others who take advantage of them.
Examples are loaning money that is not returned, doing favors for others that are not in the end, helpful, continuing toxic relationships because of guilt about being “cold hearted”.
Over the years, a number of authors have offered a variety of definitions for this difficult dynamic that seems to affect more people than we can imagine.
My definition is a very simple one: “codependency” occurs when we put other people’s needs ahead of our own on a fairly consistent basis.
It is like two pieces of the puzzle coming together. If you have one parent who is narcissistic you are likely to become either codependent or narcissistic yourself.
If you have two narcissistic parents the same holds true.
They push blame off on others and are unable to see their own part in wrong doing.