Yes, all is lost by the end of most first dates, and there is little hope for men to correct these issues . Many of these professionals have been helping men just like you for years and years; so believe in what they say. When your intentions are clear, your meeting will be purposeful.
Although you might think it’s a great way to get her to open up and that it will give her the impression that you really want to get to know the REAL her (unlike all the other guys), it usually just ends up as an awkward one-way conversation.
Do you really want to hear all the grizzly details of her past relationships or how she cut herself when she was shaving her legs earlier that day?
Never invite a woman on a formal ‘date’ if all you are looking to do is engage in one or more episodes of short-term and/or non-monogamous ‘casual’ sex with her.
Just hook up with that woman and have sex with her; 1. Say it Again: Mastering the Fine Art of Verbal Seduction and Aural Sex’.
If it becomes apparent that she is not impressed with your choice of venue, smile confidently and say to her: “This is not your kind of place, is it?
” Remember this should come across more like a statement than a question.Women like to create a sense of mystery, and you should be conveying this yourself, too. When a guy says this to us on a first date, it gives us the impression that he is “testing the waters” because he is unsure if we will agree.Let the conversation flow, and let her reveal the hidden sides to her personality by gently provoking or challenging her, rather than making huge demands on her. Instead, try and implement what I like to call “future projections”.The conversation will flow easier and far more naturally if you really listen instead of thinking ahead of yourself for the next thing to say!Women want to be with a guy who has a sense of certainty in what he does and in what choices he makes.Example: During the date, when you feel it’s going well, say to her playfully: “Next time we have dinner, you order the wine,” or “Next time we meet, when we see a movie, I bet you’ll talk all the way through it.” As you can tell, these examples have a playful undertone to them, but most importantly, they are PRESUMING that there will be another date without a flimsy question dangling at the end of it.