And at 16/17 years old, in the heat of a bad argument, who doesn’t say insensitive things? I had my temporary ileostomy through my first semester of college and told two of the girls I became friends with.
I still pretended with a couple of guys that I just had a bandage on my incision.
It was very comforting to have my best friend in high school be so understanding, help me whenever I needed help but also respect the fact that I just needed to be alone.
She never pushed to visit me in the hospital because she knew how I felt about visitors.
I couldn’t imagine a guy wanting to date me or even find me attractive at all if he knew I had a bag of crap hanging off of my stomach.
I know that is an awful way to look at the life saving operation I had but in my teenage mind, I couldn’t help feeling that way.
I went on to explain that an ostomy is when a piece of your intestine (in my case, small intestine) sticks out of your abdomen and it is covered by an appliance or a bag, where waste can be collected.
I went on to show him more in depth about the appliance and what was on my stomach. It was such a huge deal to me and he didn’t even think this could possibly be the topic I wanted to discuss with him.Some knew the name of my disease, but it was only one girlfriend who I actually went to school with that knew the details of it.Thinking back, I had about three other close girlfriends who I know I could have shared with but never did.) and I told anyone else who may have seen something, felt something, or I just had this notion that that was all they could think about (ha,) that it was a bandage from a wound infection I had after surgery.Everyone in my school knew I had been very sick and certainly, anyone who I was close with in anyway knew I had a chronic illness and had multiple surgeries on my stomach of some kind.I was intimate with two guys during that time; one I told the truth to over AIM and never went into any details and the other I pretended was a bandage and never took my shirt off.