I’ve outlined four sure-fire ways to knowing when it’s time to hit the road. If you and your man are on opposite sides of the spectrum on these topics or the timing of these issues – you will probably be unhappy if you stay together.I emphasize because often both partners can want similar things but have very different time frames for them.8 Random acts of aggression You learn an awful lot about where a person expends their energy in life when you see them unspeakably furious at a cabbie for going the down the wrong street, or snarling at someone who bumped into them on the tube.
These arise over and over again in conversations about you that end with the words "And that's when I knew it was time to call a cab." "I'm around this weekend." Oh right, would you like me to throw a parade in your honour? 3 Offering ‘helpful’ advice on her body “You should ease up on the free-weights, you don’t want to get too muscular.” Helpful, right? If you want to change me already, then I’m a little worried about what’s coming when you really get comfortable speaking your mind.
A little proactive enthusiasm about the time you spend together shows a balance of consideration and assertiveness. 4 Your crap feet A particular beef during Havaiana/Birkenstock season.
you have exhausted therapy every self-help book, CD and relationship seminar under the God-given sun…it’s probably best to end the relationship. One is empty words; the other is true commitment growth. You can’t place your finger on it but something seems off with him. A women’s intuition will tell her something is wrong long before it can be intellectualized or articulated. Or are you possessed by curiosity driven to check his snail mail, email, Facebook Twitter accounts? Being in love should enhance your sense of openness and receptivity.
It should plug you into an electric current of bright energy acceptance.
It’s a proven fact that relationships have higher success rate with couples who share similar values and goals. :: When you find yourselves arguing over the same heated topics. Is it really an overreaction or are you afraid of what may be on the other side of the suspicion?
If you’ve broken up and rekindled the romance 9 times and you’re still having the same gut-wrenching, insomnia-inducing fights, OR slightly different versions of the same problem AND! Promising each other that “you will work on it” and actually taking action by changing behavior demeanor are two different things. Does the fear of being alone or the pain of a potentially unsettling reality cause you to dismiss your gut instinct? “I’m just overreacting, again.” Your intuitions are the most effective radar system you have. One of the best things about being in a relationship is that you have someone you can fully trust in. When you’re upset, does he acknowledge your emotional state and respond to it with concern thoughtfulness? Do you trust him him to be mindful and honor finances, material belongings your shared loyalty?
Are you feeling MORE self-conscious because of the way he treats or doesn’t treat you?
You don’t need to be in a relationship so much that you need to sacrifice your sense of self.
For example, she might be thinking she wants to be in a relationship that leads to marriage in the next 18 months while he is thinking he wants to be in a relationship that leads to marriage in five years.