They may have larger amounts of money to lose and subsequently be more prepared to act as a cautionary tale to others, but men and women, young and old, are equally likely to succumb to romantic fraud.
She is now able to stand back and see just how she was manipulated. He’d ask my favourite colour, what was on my bucket list, what countries I wanted to visit.
This helps remove you from real life and allows them to take up more space in your head.
Using age-old marketing techniques, Christian created a picture of their life together so real that the victim actually went house-hunting for the two of them.
The life he described would all be theirs, if they could just get those few final obstacles out of the way…Dating fraud is becoming more sophisticated, more successful – and more devastating to its victims.
They want to know everything about you – your favourite food, your bucket list, your secret fears... Browns and greens are my favourite colours.’ They find real-life reference points: songs you can listen to, colours you can see and films you can watch.
They then come up with very similar responses, only slightly different. to test their control and have something to use against you.
Last year in the UK, online dating scammers conned their dates out of £33 million.
Anna Moore investigates the crooks who target smart, successful women Using a fake profile on the popular dating site (they operated as ‘Christian Anderson’, a divorced engineer), the pair managed to persuade a newly divorced mother of two to sign over a staggering £1.6 million, some of it her own, the rest borrowed from family and friends.
It could be getting you to take part in explicit exchanges or send sexual videos. If the ‘one-off deal’ you need to pay is presented as slightly illegal or shady – a mess he has got into and needs help getting out of – you will likely feel too worried to go for help.
Perhaps he is on the edge of retirement or about to leave the military and build a new civilian life; perhaps he was widowed years ago and only now feels able to start again.
That’s how powerful it is.’Scam Survivors also works to make life as difficult as possible for fraudsters, baiting them, wasting their time, closing their bank accounts and killing their fake social networking profiles.