I've seen that first-hand, and when I was younger I tried so hard to have some people see the emes, but they were too caught up in their own enjoyment of life and only got upset or even worse, didn't care. So to sum up as I don't want to lose anyone's time: Dressing less than tznius, regardless of what anyone admits, is a sign of what's going on inside.Apathy is even worse than anger because coldness is the worst kelipa, Amalek's... When this machala first started hitting our community in droves about ten years ago, many Rebbetzins told me it was just the Chitzonius, that inside the girls were beautiful, etc.
Be proud of your strength that you are not abashed that when you walk in the street your friends and acquaintances perceive that here walks a Jewish woman who adheres to the "Laws of Moshe and Yisroel" so much so, that you do not desire to conceal it. 6-7 With regard to your writing about covering your hair there is absolutely no question regarding this matter: Since G-d clearly said that for the benefit of the wife, her husband and their children the hair should not be revealed, surely it is so.
Be proud that your children know that they are different from all other Nations, that they have received the Torah, a "Torah of Life," and learn it as the singular foundation of their education. Thus it is impossible that by keeping G-d's commandments the head should hurt, etc.
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A girl responds to the controversial open letter from a bochur on what guys want in a wife, with some advice of her own. Maybe they thought that they could get away with it since theyre boys, and in high demand? (Trust me, we put their names out there.) But somehow, these chassidish looking guys dont strike me as the type to want tznius girls. Well, they arent exactly tznius themselves, although they sure had the whole "bochur look" down. This happened multiple times to many different friends of mine throughout the summer, to friends of mine who are obviously frum and chassidish! But guess what: us girls are requesting tznius guys, and I obviously dont mean in dress.
Dear bochur, You and your friends sound like really great people (you should probably give out your name, since Ill bet, after this article, a lot of girls want to marry you! These same bochurim will go home, request very tznius maidelach, and get those girls, without anyone ever knowing what they are truly like, despite their chassidish dress. (As a side point, youre lucky you dont have to struggle with tznius.For example, when you write that wearing a sheitel makes your head hurt, it is possible that: A) This is a falsehood of the Evil Inclination who does not want Mitzvos to be performed and does not want Jews to be showered with blessings.B) If indeed it is true then this proves that you should cut your hair that it be short. Excerpt from a letter of the Rebbe, Likkutei Sichos, Vol. 264 In response to your letter of the 23rd of Iyar, in which you ask my advice regarding your brother having male children, and healthy children: ....So I'm not here to change anyone's views, although of course I really wish for everyone-bochurim and girls-to follow not my personal views even if they b"H happen to coincide, but Hashem's, the Torah's, and the Rebbe's. Following my mother's advice, I didn't believe them and now I can see how much I was right.The outside just shows someone's inside, and the inside is usually worse...Although I don't know the typical bochur who wrote the precious article, I think what I say about myself can apply to him as well.