So, at the end of the first night of competition, when the top ten finalists were announced and my name was called, I looked around at my nine peers and realized I was the only one who wasn’t in honor’s society. I couldn’t help but look at the number of followers of the others around me in the list.
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The interview with the judges was intimidating, but I felt assured that I nailed it when, in a stroke of luck, I answered a question about what I would do as a business owner when an ad mistakenly ran that created too many contest winners, with the exact decision the company made.
The last phase of Junior Miss was an analysis of our grades. While everyone assumed I was in the top 5% of my class, as I took academic courses, was a good kid (e.g., a goodie two shoes), and had a circle of friends that included our valedictorian, salutatorian, and state gymnastics champion, I actually had to work really hard to get Bs. Recently I had the exact same feeling when I learned that my website was on the list of top 75 dating and relationships sites (#65, but I’ll take it).
If they’re showing up for class at all, then you know they’ve at least got something going for them.
And hey, maybe he’s even smart and organized enough for you to make him your “study buddy.” Study dates are pretty much the best dates most college girls can hope for within the first month or so of school (news flash: college guys are usually cheap).As long as you’re not going crazy by swapping saliva with every guy you lay eyes on, random hook-ups can be fun and can lead to date parties, formals and maybe even a real date!If nothing else, at least you can get an exciting night or two out of them—just make sure to stay safe and keep your friends posted on your whereabouts.Hooking up with one or two of your hallmates within the first few days of school, however, is a definite no-no.When tempted to engage in “dormcest,” remind yourself that you’re going to have to face him—as well as everyone else on your floor, because they’re going to find out—for the rest of the year, no matter how good or bad your hook-up was.Most of the time, dance-floor make-outs (DFMO’s) start and finish on the dance floor and only go as far as a phone number swap.