An attraction technologist at heart, he travels the world in search of beautiful women, new ways to help men with their online dating, and the perfect single malt whiskey.
So girls and guys must have drastically different experiences with online dating.
If she’s written a lot on her profile, it should be easy enough to find something you like. A compliment or statement about her physical should always be accompanied by something non-physical.
Now that we’ve identified what we like, it’s time to identify what she likes about herself. If a women mentions her career or university in the opening line of her profile, you can bet that it’s important to her, and that she’s proud of it.
A girl with a dozen different full length mirror selfies, wearing various outfits & dresses, is leading with her sense of fashion. Other frequently seen first lines include a joke (girls who want to be fun/funny), or even red flags such as highly selective qualifiers, ie; “don’t message me unless you are XYZ”, or posturing, ie. Another way to identify what a woman really likes is to look for exclamation points, ie; “puppies!!
The reality is that even if you do everything right on your first messages, you still need to invest a massive number of hours to win dates with the more attractive women on the dating sites.
Because they have so many thirsty suitors messaging them regularly, your execution needs to be flawless, just to get your foot in the door with them.
The girls post a profile and get bombarded with messages from guys, guys scan profiles and message the girls.
So, do you have any advice for how to get my message to stand out? Most dating sites have a flirty option which allows you to express your interest without having to actually message a person.
During your initial scan, you should be looking for pictures and phrases that stand out to you. It’s natural to be drawn in by big pretty eyes, long healthy hair, killer curves, or any number of other physical assets she has on display in her profile pictures.
The key to making it work, is to identify 1 thing you like most about her pictures. Next, scan what she’s written for something that stands out most to you. This statement is great, because it signals sexual interest, blames the outfit instead of her, and suggests that the one being seduced, which flips the script to allow her to flirt with you from a safe position.
Or in our case, reading it will be candy to her eyes.
If her first name is not available, you can substitute her username. Depending on her username, addressing her this way can be pretty funny on its own.
Unless you’re on a more serious, relationship oriented dating site like eharmony or match.com, don’t worry about proper capitalization. But for online dating, it offers nothing of value to the woman, while putting the burden of creating conversation on her. Thinking up an effective statement shouldn’t be hard.