Creating the perfect online dating profile is much the same.
It’s about striking the perfect balance between authenticity – the act of truly being yourself – and good marketing.
No, the people we end up with are a consequence of luck, circumstances, and our own individual actions/choices. So for those who choose to eliminate people from consideration based on completely arbitrary factors, good luck. My takeaways: If you can, it’s better to meet people in real life. Because the chemistry of that organic meeting, the sexual tension that can be built in even a short amount of time, is huge–it goes so far beyond what you look like in a set of six pictures and a short blurb about how you like whiskey and pizza.
Being newly single, I’m still working on that–look for a post soon on ideas for meeting people in real life, as opposed to mindlessly swiping on your phone.
Most of us don’t, but that’s what we expect–which, in point of fact, is why so many attractive/eligible men are… This epiphany occurred to me yesterday as I was playing cornhole with my cousin’s incredibly attractive friend (no, no–not that kind of cornhole).
On Tinder and Bumble, I wouldn’t even bother swiping right on this girl (that’s a lie, I probably would… Like touching my hands and arms and seeking my attention most of the evening interested.
Be honest, open, creative and speak from the heart, and you’ll attract the same. With a bit of luck, they’ll be up to the challenge and excited to help you meet someone really special.
They may even have had their own recent experience with online dating and may be able to offer some helpful, subjective tips and suggestions. You can write these yourself or you can have them answer some of the specific profile questions where you feel stuck in coming up with accurate responses that also highlight your best assets.
In the same way, a great profile makes others want to discover more about you, but without revealing too much about you.
Here are a few tips for knowing what to reveal and what to hold back: MUST-HAVES: ■ Confidence – I need to be with someone who’s comfortable being themselves.
■ Sense of humour – I want to be with someone who appreciates my silly side and has one of their own.
■ Trustworthy – I’m looking for someone who’s honest and true to their word.
Don’t seek advice from those who appear judgemental of online dating – they’ll do nothing but discourage you at a time when you most need support and encouragement. For some questions you might need more of their help than for others. After you’ve got some suggestions and ideas for things to include in your profile, take some time by yourself to write your profile before bringing it back to your friends to check before you hit “submit”.