All that should matter is that you are happy and respected in a relationship.Since I was young, I have always been in love with the idea of being in love.
And while some gaffes can be overlooked and corrected with education, others are too painful to ignore or get past.
Black women talked to Vice about all of the above in a piece by Janae Price who shared, “While dating men of different races, I’ve found myself in some frustrating, awkward, unfortunate, and uncomfortable situations.
Things were going well, so he suggested I meet both his parents. She was interested in my family and the fact that they weren’t originally from the US.
She wanted to know things about Guyanese marriage and wedding traditions, dating customs, and mused about what it would be like to have mixed children.
I felt different quickly and felt no one really understood me. I would think white boys at my school would look beyond that. How could he say these things when I'm in the room?
When I started developing feels for boys in middle school, I felt worst. " I couldn't shake the feeling that it was because my skin color was brown and theirs was white. He told me he was joking; I didn't think it was funny. It was hurtful to think this is how he saw my race. I didn't understand why he said those things, but let’s just say my feelings and my respect for him died that day.
The room became very tense, and I noticed my boyfriend get a little uneasy.
His father broke the silence: “I know you think you’re dating my son, but this is going to stop now…
If he was white, black, Hispanic, Asian, or any other race, it didn't matter to me. As I went through my teen years, I had crushes on black boys, but they were dating white girls. I felt really down on myself because it seemed I was unattractive to every race, even my own.
I just really might be unappealing to guys of all races. Can’t they see the person I am on the inside is more important? If I decide to go for white boys, I have to find strong ones. I don't choose race, and I base who I like off of how the person treats me. I am not the type of girl who falls for a guy because of his appearance.
Then I developed a crush on another white boy I met in the mall. He never made racist comments and treated me really well. I told him I liked him, and he told me he had to think about it. I fall in love with guys who are genuine on the inside.