Someone who can control his anger is better than a physically strong man who can conquer a city.
A man needs to make decisions and take responsibility for the outcome.
If he's reluctant to make decisions, she may resent him.
We held hands walking in the rain-cleansed park, enjoyed restaurant meals and sight-seeing together, had laughs with friends, and had passionate nights.
He was intermittently moody during the vacation, sometimes walking 20 paces ahead or behind me saying he needed some solitude.
I've heard married men advise younger men that the key to a happy marriage is: "Yes, dear." I've received emails filled with jokes that ridicule men -- like what's the difference between a man and fine wine? On television, we've gone from Father Knows Best, where the father was a wise caring man who could do no wrong, to Homer Simpson, a buffoon who can do nothing right. He asked God for a wife and God created Eve to be an "ezer k'negdo" -- a helper opposing him or a helper against him (Genesis, ). My search led me to discover a lot of timeless wisdom that for generations fathers taught their sons -- wisdom that is so relevant today.
Does Homer actually influence what people think a man should be? They had a lot of wisdom, but I was looking for more advice on what a man should be. I started with Adam -- the first man in the world who was in a relationship. Today's absent father, either from long hours of work or divorce, means many boys grow up without a strong male role model.Ben is sensitive and tries hard to please Miriam, but when there's a problem that needs to be dealt with, he seems oblivious. Then Adam hides in the bushes and God asks him: Adam did you eat the fruit from the Tree of Knowledge that I commanded you not to eat? God doesn't say, "Adam, I understand -- she pushed you into it.When she asks for input on a decision, he says, "It's up to you." He wants to be nice but he doesn't realize he's frustrating her. Like a lot of men these days, I received so many messages on what a man in a relationship should be, I was bewildered. If a man works on himself and develops himself to be worthy, the woman will be his partner. What happens next in the world's first relationship? They have one commandment: Don't eat the fruit of the Tree of Knowledge. You're not responsible for what happened." Just the opposite.A man who is afraid of making a wrong decision should ask himself: Who should make decisions? Lesson #4: Be strong The Talmud asks: Who is strong?He who can control his passions (Ethics of the Fathers, 4:1).A man who is manly has courage to be able to deal with difficulty, pain or danger without backing away despite his fear. To men: If after years of watching Homer Simpson, you haven't heard these ideas before, ask your wife if this is what she wants. Elliott Katz, a father who coaches other fathers, is the author of Being the Strong Man A Woman Wants: Timeless Wisdom on Being a Man .