I was thunderstruck that it felt so much like my falling in love with my wife, yet it was much more passionate.I can admire an attractive woman with a nice body, but I no longer think I have to bed her like I once did." For this man, the dissonance between who he was and who he wanted to be became too powerful to contain." He responded, "I don't want to spend the rest of my life alone.
Within the LGBT community, not only are the L, the G, the B and the T distinct from one another, but each can be divided into multiple sub-populations.
The term "bisexuality" lacks clarity about the differences between attraction, behavior or self-identity.
Once he aligned his sexual attraction and his behavior, he became uncomfortable with the label "bi," but he remained hesitant to leap toward a complete gay self-identity.
Bisexual activists get very angry when others say that bisexuality is nothing more than a place to park until one becomes gay.
I recently had a conversation with a married man who described himself as bisexual.
I asked him if his attraction to men and women was equal. I then asked, "How do you commit to one person if you must give up 50 percent of who you are?
For them, being a man still means being a husband and father while anything else is deviant.
Following Stonewall, the homosexual community adopted the word "gay" as a term of self-affirmation.
But there are many, many MSM who are depressed and anxious because their attraction, their behavior and their identity are not in alignment.