But again, I’ve done this wrong before, and believe me if you have a non-Christian boyfriend, sticking to this is a whole lot harder, and it causes huge amount of heartache and hurt.
God set this rule for a reason, and it’s too clear in the Bible to try and argue your way around it (me and my friends tried that one too!
Whenever I am thinking on or praying about relationships, mine or other peoples, this verse is always an excellent foundation.
Ella is currently a student at Cardiff University in Wales studying English Literature and Religious Studies.
She grew up on the south coast of England with 3 younger siblings and loves reading, singing and chocolate brownies. I am a non-Christian and cannot say my religion in fear of being looked down on, but I am dating a Christian girl. I don’t see why the restrictions from Yahweh if he truly loves you wouldn’t he want you to be happy?
I imagined that when I did meet and fall in love with the guy God had for me that it would be easy, that I’d be a fantastic girlfriend and that he would never let me down.
That’s not the case, the only perfect love is the love God has for us.
He points me to Christ, shares wisdom, prays for and with me, encourages me when I am feeling doubtful and fights with me to hold firm to my faith and the values we share.
My experience, my getting-it-wrong, has taught me that you might not like what God’s telling you to do, but doing it WILL be what’s best for you. Not Having Sex Before You’re Married I don’t know what you’ve been taught about sex, including maybe by your church, but I’ve found that often the focus is on young women’s purity, and it’s imagined that you will simply have to deny and fight off men’s advances. You will also want to have sex, and just because your boyfriend might be a Christian, don’t imagine that the temptation won’t be an issue.I have found that the main challenges facing Christian girls (and the ones I struggled with HUGELY) are dating non-Christians, not having sex before you’re married, and the christian relationship myth!I’ll briefly touch on these three things from what I’ve learnt in my own experiences. Dating Non-Christians To start, the Bible pretty specifically tells us we should not be having relationships with non-Christians: Your mission to share your faith with non-Christians doesn’t extend to dating them.Heartbreak is not impossible for Christians, and the first guy you try to date in a God honouring way might not be the guy, there might not even be a guy (there’s an excellent post on singleness here, sooooo worth checking out), but Relationships are both wonderful and testing, but the best way to do them will always be God’s way, whether we like it or not.Your relationship with Jesus is ultimately far more important, but dating and marriage is a gift from God and if you listen to and follow what He says about it, it will be worth it!Me and my girlfriend don’t ever quarral about that though.