Approaches based on guilt mongering and scare tactics will not help the sex addict get control. Retribution and humiliation can achieve short term success.
But, you cannot overcome a sex addiction by trying to escape your sexually addictive desires because they are directly tied to your sex drive and you won't be able to successfully repress your sex drive over the long run.
A further example of why conventional licensed therapy and the 12-step program fail in dealing with sex addiction is that their approaches advise the use of HALT.
When you attempt to get a handle on sex addiction, you're doing much more than merely stopping a bad habit.
If you've failed at getting your addiction under control, you're not doomed.
Here are a few typical ways a sexually addicted person is advised to repress his addictive desires: Stay away from the Internet.
Don't read anything or watch movies that might be sexually stimulating.
HALT stands for "Don't get too Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired." In other words, don't be a human being.
Approached correctly any sex addiction can be overcome no matter how hungry, tired, angry, lonely, stressed or depressed you might be.
If you've felt that you're worthless because you didn't succeed at overcoming a sex addiction, you're mistaken. Success in overcoming sex addiction depends on three factors.
Failure occurs when any one of these three factors are not properly developed. Honesty Most sexually addicted people lie to themselves and/or their partner about their sexually addictive activities.
One thing I've learned is that beating yourself up does not help. As a seasoned addiction counselor, I know that you will be tempted to lie to yourself and/or your partner or me about your addiction.