There is no one in the industry that calls me anything other than my name, especially to my face. And I think that's pretty thoughtless and stupid, if you ask me, honestly.
Online dating for homosexuals
How have you and Kim navigated those relationships now that you've watched the scene and seen how it really went down?
I have had to be pretty diplomatic when it comes to the situation, understanding that in the middle of the situation, in the end of the day, there might be things you find funny.
I believe we grow closer every day, but just having obstacles to go through—and this has definitely been a new set of obstacles—has given us the opportunity to talk about new thing and grow as a couple. Now, as far as the entire experience for Kim, I know there have been frustrating moments. I'm a big fan, obviously, but so are a lot of people.
I know there have been moments where she had questioned whether she should do this in the first place. This opportunity is different in the respect that reality television is different.
That's been, I think, the most enjoyable part for me, is getting a chance to actually go back after the fact and really get a chance to hear some of the things that are said and enjoy some of the things my kids say. You've also had some bad experiences too, Jamaica especially. She basically took that speculation, one aspect of it, and ran with it.
I'm just going to jump right into it: Kenya made some pretty serious allegations that night around the pool. What's your response to what Kenya had to say that night? When someone spreads lies about you, you can either go at them in a defensive manner and be seen as defensive, or you can just let a lie be a lie. You know, if that's the way she wanted to play it, that's the way she's gonna play it. Number one: Obviously I'd been in this situation before when the situation happened the first time. The people that are watching the show will have to see. The bottom line with that is, I'll be completely honest, if the shoe was on the other foot and somebody spread a rumor like that about my spouse, they don't really get back on the Christmas list for a couple years. Some of them she means, and some of them she doesn't. Now, speaking specifically to this point, again, being in the industry that I'm in, being the person that I am, without judgements on anyone's personal life, I have a lot of people in my life, a lot of friends in my life, a lot of colleagues in my life that are homosexuals. I know that they were offended by the statements made.
You've not only lived through all this, but you've then had to watch it back on TV and relive it all over again. We have a very funny banter and sometimes when you're just living it, you can take it for granted. It's funny to go back and be able to watch it over and over again and hear some of the things she's said and go, ‘My god, that's brilliant.
That just came rolling off of her tongue.' It's hysterical to me. There were all kind of rumors about me because nobody knew who this guy was dating, and eventually marrying, Kim Fields.
It is now a respectable genre in the sense of I don't really think it's going anywhere for a while. If they're on the screen and talking, they get to see it.
So, I don't think there is any crime or fault in someone jumping back and forth from aspects and angles within the career, for example: television, film, theater. If they're just on the screen, we kind of just don't even tell them it happened.
But at the same time, I would hope that the people that are watching the show judge my character higher than they would some of them that would participate in something like that. In her first season, Kim has found herself stuck in the middle of a pretty major feud.