There are two things that I find are an attraction in blame: 1) It keeps you invested in a situation effectively helping you avoid dealing and doing.2) It’s a refusal to either let yourself off the hook or let others off the hook.
This is often synonymous with accepting that it’s done but the truth is, the relationship (or situation) is ‘done’ anyway. Baggage Reclaim is a guide to learning to live and love with self-esteem by breaking the patterns that stand in your way.
It’s in the past – it’s you that needs to catch up to your present. Whether it's figuring out what’s going on in a troubling relationship, understanding you and self-care, or being more assertive, I’m here to help you guide you.
You’re the common denominator in every situation in your life.
That doesn’t make you responsible for everything that goes down – it makes you responsible for your part.
I’ll never forget the realisation that at 28, I still emotionally responded to certain situations as if I were 5 or 6 years old.
That sobered me right up and forced me to grow myself up fast.
It’s more important that I like me than I try to impress ‘everyone’.
I also don’t bust my proverbial balls about disappointments nor do I blame everyone else.
It’s time to look beyond you to the bigger picture so that you can quit being dishonest and dodging responsibility.
If 4 people rob a store and get caught and 1 decides to take the blame, it’s not responsibility because it removes it from the other 3 people.
Be careful of becoming obsessed with being proven ‘right’ – by sticking with blame it’s like resolving to continue on a quest from now till the end of time to leave no blame stone unturned and prove that you’re right to take the blame (or blame them).