So many women get stuck plotting and planning their every move in an effort to prove their worth to a guy. When this happens, you’ll find yourself in a situation with a guy who will essentially do whatever he wants because he knows he can get away with it and you’ll still be there.
It’s a miserable feeling, one that can have lasting ramifications long after the relationship (inevitably) ends. You need to be your greatest ally in the world, you need to do what’s best for you and what will make you happy and help you reach your potential. If you “should” him, you’re basically telling him he’s a loser who can’t make you happy and this will not encourage him to try any harder. It causes resentment to brew and it immediately places the person you’re “shoulding” on the defensive.
If your relationship is sending you in the opposite direction, stop wasting your strength and energy on making it work and instead use those forces to walk away. Take the Word “Should” Out of Your Vocabulary If you’re gonna do anything, it should be to take the word should out of your vocabulary! Just think about all the times someone told you what you “should” do. Instead of focusing on what your partner doing right in the relationship and show appreciation for those things.
We find signs to prove that things are the way we want them to be and that he feels the way we want him to feel. If a guy says or indicates he wants to be with you, but isn’t actually for whatever reason (I don’t like labels, my ex girlfriend was evil, I’m stressed about my job, my dog died etc. Don’t help his case by reasoning and rationalizing why his excuses make sense (but he is to do it. And even if a guy can’t commit for whatever reason, he will make sure to still let you know he’s invested in a real and substantial way.
Some reasons may be quite impressive, there may even be sprinkles of truth mixed in there, but when it comes down to it, if he wants to be with you, he will be. If a guy isn’t showing you that he is committed and that he wants to be with you and only you, then stop wanting that from him.
Yet despite these agonizing feelings of hurt/despair/insecurity/fear, they are unable to extricate themselves from the situation because of their all-consuming feelings for the other person.
They get so caught up in their feelings for him, or his presumed feelings for them, that they miss the most important variable in the equation.
When a relationship crushes you and leaves you feeling paranoid, anxious, insecure, inadequate, and always on edge, just waiting for the other shoe to drop….
you’re cheating yourself out of having the immense benefits a good relationship can provide.
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If you catch yourself obsessing over what to say to your guy, or how to act around him, stop and tell yourself: “I am the prize that needs to win over.” Becoming a thoroughly confident woman takes work and isn’t something that just happens.