As for the current online dating options—they strike me as a good first crack at this by humanity, but the kind of thing we’ll significantly improve on to the point where the way it was done in 2014 will seem highly outdated in not too many years.
Now that the stigma has diminished, you know this industry is going to race ahead because there’s so much money to be made by whoever can be innovative.
We did The Rules, wrote The Rules, and have helped millions of women do The Rules, too. Whether you were recently hurt or haven’t been in a relationship for a while, you want immediate gratification and compensation for all the pain and heartache of recent years or even decades.
But get a grip and tell yourself there is no shortcut to courtship, things take time, so you must not act impatiently or desperately.
from Brooklyn, NY for suggesting this week’s topic: Online dating, once a fringe and stigmatized activity, is now over a $2 billion industry.
Over 40 million Americans have given online dating a try, and over a of the American couples married between 20 met online.
And for people who have no interest in serious dating and just want to find people to hook up with?
Online is a much better way to accomplish that too.Unfortunately, no matter what your heart says, you must hold back a bit for your own good.Here are Rules to help you be light and breezy in your e-mails: It all sounds good on paper, but you cannot write “soul mate” and think you will get one that way.Effective dating definitely needs to take place in person, the same way your grandfather did it, but I see no good reason why happens—and for the most important mission in most of our lives, it makes no sense to crush your ability to meet great people to try a first date with because it’s not as good a story to have met them online.I have a friend that goes on two or three first dates every week with people he already knows are potentially good personality and physical matches for him—how you find the right person, and good luck keeping up with him meeting people the old-fashioned way.We came up with the idea for a self-help dating book called The Rules after many, many dinners with single girlfriends at the now-defunct Sung Chu Mein, a Chinese restaurant on the Upper East Side in New York City—it was sort of like Sex and the City, but before Sex and the City!