Not only does going slow give you time to heal, but it also helps you better assess those you date.
Like Jennifer, she needs some advice but is concerned about how she can make the transition into dating easy on her children. He'd like to date again, and some of his friends say he should start looking for a woman now — after all, he's getting divorced soon.
But John knows better because he's still married, and dating now would go against God's desires.
And as with any loss, big or small, time is needed to grieve and to reassess who you are, where you've been and where God wants you to go.
Healing is also necessary to follow God's command to" do unto others what you would have them do unto you," (Matthew ).
She suggested that he develop relationships with other Christian men for support, rather than seek out women for emotional comfort. And, until he heals, he won't be able to relax and commit his entire heart to his new partner the way God intends.
To begin healing, you'll want to seek counsel from committed Christians who are willing to walk through the grief process with you.
Jennifer's, Samantha's and John's concerns are common, because according to the U. Census Bureau, 19.3 million Americans get divorced each year, and many of them date and eventually remarry.
Perhaps you share their concerns, as you're also wondering how you can reenter the dating world after divorce — and do so according to God's standards. Divorce is the death of the dreams you had when you committed yourself "for better or for worse." As a Christian, you can't simply separate from your spouse one day and hit the dating field the next.
Be aware that when you commit to remain celibate until you remarry, there may be some people who will try to convince you that you are being unreasonable. Instead, run the other direction and resolve to date only fellow believers who share your convictions.
The Bible is clear about this: Maintaining your sexual integrity is not optional; neither is getting romantically involved with someone who doesn't share your faith (2 Cor. Above all, God wants to come first in all you do (Matthew ). During that time, several men have come and gone from her life.
Even though she has decided to wait a few years until her daughter is grown to reenter the dating scene, she's confused about how to proceed.