Society, the media, counselling services, and schools tend to 'erase' their relationships by grouping bisexuality within the gay or straight binary; or forget altogether that bisexual men and their partners are of all ages, ethnicities, countries, classes, she explains.
“Some bi men and their partners felt they no longer belonged and were discriminated against by gay men and lesbians.
Some women who had been loved by gay men were now hearing comments like, ‘You’d better lock your boyfriends away, the female predator is here’,” says Dr Pallotta-Chiarolli. Is the bedroom a sacred space or can others come into bed with us? Are we going to do gendered monogamy - meaning the man could only date other men and the woman other women?
When the men did not feel comfortable coming out, misogyny and violence continued to be issues.
This was generally a response to “incredible stigmatisation, marginalisation, and discrimination for their bisexuality,” says Dr Pallotta-Chiarolli “One example was of a man who basically married his female partner to cover his same-sex attractions,” says Dr Pallotta-Chiarolli.
It turned out that straight men were the ones with more emotional and misogynistic baggage.
This is partly due to the fact that as these men tried to understand their sexuality, they also questioned the most negative aspects of masculine character traits: including aggression.’ And Amber Rose, the public figure who is well-known for standing against slut-shaming and having a sex positive attitude, recently said she would not date a bisexual man. I just wouldn’t be comfortable with it and I don’t know why,” she said during a Facebook Q&A.Meanwhile, a survey by But by seeing bisexuality as a deal-breaker, heterosexual women might not only be unwittingly dodging perfectly decent partners, but the best.As Dr Pallotta-Chiarolli explains: “One: This is what I’m experiencing right now. As a result, if a man’s partner discovered his bisexuality by mistake - for instance by finding gay porn or a condom in his pocket - women generally responded in one of three ways.By breaking up with the partner immediately; ending the relationship because of an unrelated issue; or communicating and navigation the situation.They also were less likely to value unequal and traditional gender roles, according to Dr Maria Pallotta-Chiarolli, Senior Lecturer in Social Diversity in Health and Education at Deakin University and the co-author of the book .